Addictions, Obsessions and YOU
If you aren’t sure if you have an addiction or obsession to something (anything really), you just need to ask yourself a few questions. Addictions can happen to anyone and the addiction can be to anything, for example drugs, drinking, smoking, gaming, gambling, shopping, etc.
- If you are out with friends, but you are thinking about getting home so you can indulge in your addiction, you have an addiction.
- In addition, you may notice that you may have angry outbursts and are more volatile or unpredictable, when you are separated from the source of the addition.
- You may be inattentive and not follow through on assignments or obligations on time or at all.
- You may feel melancholy (sad), lack of motivation and depressed.
- You may be unlikely to admit that what you are addicted to is a problem at all.
- If others mention to you that they believe you have a problem with addiction, but you overly object or deny that there is any issue, it’s a problem.
- If you have a decreased ability or interest in forming meaningful connections with others; and find yourself limiting your social sphere to others who have the same addiction.
- You may be sacrificing time spent in meaningful, life enriching activities in order to engage in addictive behaviors. Meaningful, life-enriching activities are of two basic types: 1) Love: time spent in relationships with others, and 2) Work/School: time spent being productive including employment, learning, working on personal projects, volunteering, and helping others. Time is a limited resource. When time is increasingly spent pursuing an addiction, it limits the amount of time available to devote to these two basic human activities.
As an addicted person, you may gradually lose your moral compass, you may begin to disrespect the rights and needs of other people. You may even mistreat the people that matter to you the most. This begins by failing to meet certain responsibilities, commitments, or obligations. Examples of these failures might be: failing to show up for things; becoming dishonest by failing to disclose information; or making excuses rather than making a sincere apology. This type of disregard will evolve into more obvious forms of disrespect and mistreatment as addiction progresses. This progression might include flat-out lying and deception; stealing from loved ones; and threatening these same people if their demands are not met. You may start to experience feelings of guilt and self-loathing as you break your own moral code.
It does not matter what you may be addicted to, whether is it drugs, food, smoking, gaming, gambling, etc. It is the addiction itself, the fact that it runs your life, that is harmful to you. Although some addictions cause physical harm, other can cause you emotional harm. When an addiction controls your life, it is harmful to you. Most addicts will say that they can stop whenever they want, which is one of the first lies an addict will tell. You may believe you can stop “anytime you want”, but you will say that you don’t want to stop. In reality, you cannot stop. That is what addiction is.
Your question could be, is your life better with “it” or without “it”? Does that which you obsess over, help you to be the best you that you can be? Only you can answer that. KJ @ KJ-isms